Your Safety Comes First: Planning Before You File
Before a single court document is filed, your physical safety must be the top priority. Arizona's court system and domestic violence advocacy organizations recognize that the period immediately surrounding a separation or divorce filing is statistically one of the most dangerous times for abuse survivors. The decision to leave can escalate violence, which is why a thorough safety plan is essential before you take any legal steps. Start by contacting the Arizona Coalition to End Sexual and Domestic Violence (ACESDV) or a local domestic violence shelter. Advocates can help you create a personalized safety plan, which may include securing important documents (birth certificates, Social Security cards, financial records), identifying a safe place to go, and preparing a go-bag. Keep digital communications private — consider using a public library computer or a trusted friend's device for any divorce-related research or legal consultations. Arizona Superior Courts offer confidential address programs through the Arizona Secretary of State's Safe at Home program, which allows domestic violence survivors to use a substitute mailing address so an abuser cannot track their location through court documents. Do not underestimate the importance of this step — your physical safety is the foundation upon which every other legal step in this guide is built.
- Contact the Arizona Coalition to End Sexual and Domestic Violence (ACESDV) at 1-800-782-6400 before filing to build a safety plan.
- Enroll in Arizona's Safe at Home address confidentiality program through the Secretary of State's office to protect your location.
- Gather and secure critical documents (ID, financial records, children's records) in a safe location outside the home.
- Use a private device and browser when researching divorce options or communicating with attorneys.
- Identify a trusted person — a friend, family member, or advocate — who knows your plan and can assist in an emergency.
- Inform your employer, children's school, and trusted neighbors if your safety is at immediate risk.
The period immediately after announcing your intent to divorce or filing court documents can be the most dangerous time in an abusive relationship. Never serve divorce papers or announce your plans without first consulting a domestic violence advocate or attorney about safety precautions.